So I was sitting around the other day, watching a Sex and the City marathon on E! (like I have done on many days.) All of a sudden I started having an entirely new perspective on this amazing show. Now what I may say later on could possibly come off as criticism, and I suppose in a way it is. I will say however, if this show was not so incredibly written, and acted, and wasn’t so addictive I would not even have the desire to write this piece.
Okay so let me get to the gist of this piece. I remember when the Sex and the City movie came out my friends and I got all dressed up (yes I realize now how incredibly corny that was) and couldn’t wait to see the four of them again and to catch up with what happened the last time we saw these ladies. I remember thinking, I can’t wait to see what is up with Big and Carrie? That same question is what brought on my new perspective as I sat and watched re-runs the other day. Most women will say that Sex and the City was just a realistic view of what women are going through, which I suppose has a kernel of truth  to it. I am sure we have all been one these if not all ladies at this point. Some may say the show was a good example for women, and was some sort of liberation. That is where I beg to differ. Big and Carrie’s relationship was the worst example of what women should accept or expect in a relationship. Being honest each lady seems to be somewhat of a ”negative” example.
CARRIE
So as a huge fan of the show, as many many people are, we all know the Big and Carrie relationship was a huge storyline. While Carrie had many other relationships on the show, it was evident Big was the one she always yearned for. Here in lies the problem. Okay, so first Big and Carrie meet and they start to date casually and they face many of the same problems that relationships can have. She may have fallen for him faster than he did for her, which I get happens, someone once said to me, “women may fall faster, but men fall harder” so I get that. However this goes on forever and when she decides that they should be exclusive he is still seeing other people. Then they are in a serious relationship and she can’t leave things there at his house, he won’t sleep at hers’, etc. He basically strings her along for years. He then tells her he never wants to get married again, moves to Paris (which he didn’t tell her about by the way), and then comes back engaged! it doesn’t end there he invites her to the wedding, then after he is married proceeds to have an affair with her and turns her into his mistress (all with her gleefully going along with this while feigning fake guilt). The worst part of this is while she is committing adultery with Big, she has this wonderful boyfriend named Aiden, who is in love with her.
So after the whole marriage debacle, and Carrie losing Aiden, she moves on and starts dating new people. Eventually Aiden forgives her, takes her back, and is even understanding the Big will be a part of her life. Basically he is wonderful (or spineless depending on who you are asking). Aiden proposes, Carrie accepts and then eventually deciding she Is not the marrying type, again breaking Aiden’s heart. Fast forward a few years, and Big decides he is ready to be with her, chases her down in Paris and with no questions asked they are a couple. They live together for five years and one day tells her if she wants to get married then that is what they will do. Carrie Not The Marrying Type Bradshaw, acts as if it is the most romantic thing she has ever heard, and accepts. We all know what happens she plans this elaborate wedding, he leaves her at the altar, and she ends up marrying him in the end at a courthouse..smh.
My point with Carrie and Big being a horrible example for a relationships are that, women seem to look at it as idealistic, when in reality Carrie was a glutton for punishment. She should have really been with Aiden, that should have been the love of her life, but she instead chooses a man who disappoints her time and time again.
SAMANTHA
So I know I will get A LOT of slack for this because Samantha is a fan favorite, and honestly I enjoy her character. She is funny and she was also a good friend. Samantha was promiscuous, plain and simple. And we live in a world where double standards exists, and we all use them at some point. The argument will be well she is just dong what men have been doing forever. While that may be true, there are some things that men can do and women can’t, that is just the reality. As women we all want to march the streets and say that men and women are equal, and we can do anything men can do. However as soon as a man hits a women, we are the first ones saying, “what kind of a man hits a women”? And I agree with that, but if we are equal shouldn’t be the same as a women hitting a women? The answer is no. Because men and women are not equals on all fronts, which brings me back to Samantha. She slept  with  a lot of men, sometimes more than one an episode. One time even giving oral sex to the UPS guy delivering a package and Carrie walking in on her. That does not make her cool, it makes her slutty.
She finally finds a guy who loves her, (Smith) and is the hottest man she has ever been with on the show( since sex is her number one priority). She eventually let him go, you know for the reasons we all do. He was totally in love with her and bought her jewelry she wanted to buy herself. Another one who knows how to pick them.

MIRANDA
Miranda was actually one of my favorite characters. Of course the one who could see through a lot of the bullshit that her friends were accepting from the men in their lives, was portrayed as cynical bitch. She was often seen as the moody one and a Debbie downer. When in actuality she was telling them the truth. Of course Miranda had her moments much like Samantha. She gets pregnant for an ex boyfriend she dumps because? You guessed it he was completely into her and she grew tired of him and decided it was not working out, sound familiar? When she is pregnant she decides to date, and even asks her friends at one point, “is it ok to have sex with a man if you are pregnant with another man’s baby?! The answer to that would be no. Of course her friends tell her they have to let him know first. Really? You can’t hold out until after your baby is born?

CHARLOTTE
Dear, dear Charlotte, The naïve one, at least that is what we are supposed to think. The one women out of the bunch who wanted a family came across the desperate one. The one who was being unrealistic about love and relationships, besides being the fact that she one who still wanted to work on her marriage even after finding out that her husband was having impotency issues. Judging from the rest of their track records they would have been out of there in a second because they have left previous ones for less. The irony of Charlotte is that the one who comes across as pathetic is the only one who truly ended up in a fulfilling relationship, no cheating, no wanting to get his own place, just a husband who loved her unconditionally.
Obviously I have a lot of time on my hands for looking so deep into Sex and the City. LOL! But I hope you get the point. Was and will always be a great show!

 

So I was sitting around the other day, watching a Sex and the City marathon on E! (like I have done on many days.) All of a sudden I started having an entirely new perspective on this amazing show. Now what I may say later on could possibly come off as criticism, and I suppose in a way it is. I will say however, if this show was not so incredibly written, and acted, and wasn’t so addictive I would not even have the desire to write this piece.

Okay so let me get to the gist of this piece. I remember when the Sex and the City movie came out my friends and I got all dressed up (yes I realize now how incredibly corny that was) and couldn’t wait to see the four of them again and to catch up with what happened the last time we saw these ladies. I remember thinking, I can’t wait to see what is up with Big and Carrie? That same question is what brought on my new perspective as I sat and watched re-runs the other day. Most women will say that Sex and the City was just a realistic view of what women are going through, which I suppose has a kernel of truth  to it. I am sure we have all been one these if not all ladies at this point. Some may say the show was a good example for women, and was some sort of liberation. That is where I beg to differ. Big and Carrie’s relationship was the worst example of what women should accept or expect in a relationship. Being honest each lady seems to be somewhat of a ”negative” example.

CARRIE

So as a huge fan of the show, as many many people are, we all know the Big and Carrie relationship was a huge storyline. While Carrie had many other relationships on the show, it was evident Big was the one she always yearned for. Here in lies the problem. Okay, so first Big and Carrie meet and they start to date casually and they face many of the same problems that relationships can have. She may have fallen for him faster than he did for her, which I get happens, someone once said to me, “women may fall faster, but men fall harder” so I get that. However this goes on forever and when she decides that they should be exclusive he is still seeing other people. Then they are in a serious relationship and she can’t leave things there at his house, he won’t sleep at hers’, etc. He basically strings her along for years. He then tells her he never wants to get married again, moves to Paris (which he didn’t tell her about by the way), and then comes back engaged! it doesn’t end there he invites her to the wedding, then after he is married proceeds to have an affair with her and turns her into his mistress (all with her gleefully going along with this while feigning fake guilt). The worst part of this is while she is committing adultery with Big, she has this wonderful boyfriend named Aiden, who is in love with her.

So after the whole marriage debacle, and Carrie losing Aiden, she moves on and starts dating new people. Eventually Aiden forgives her, takes her back, and is even understanding the Big will be a part of her life. Basically he is wonderful (or spineless depending on who you are asking). Aiden proposes, Carrie accepts and then eventually deciding she Is not the marrying type, again breaking Aiden’s heart. Fast forward a few years, and Big decides he is ready to be with her, chases her down in Paris and with no questions asked they are a couple. They live together for five years and one day tells her if she wants to get married then that is what they will do. Carrie Not The Marrying Type Bradshaw, acts as if it is the most romantic thing she has ever heard, and accepts. We all know what happens she plans this elaborate wedding, he leaves her at the altar, and she ends up marrying him in the end at a courthouse..smh.

My point with Carrie and Big being a horrible example for a relationships are that, women seem to look at it as idealistic, when in reality Carrie was a glutton for punishment. She should have really been with Aiden, that should have been the love of her life, but she instead chooses a man who disappoints her time and time again.

SAMANTHA

So I know I will get A LOT of slack for this because Samantha is a fan favorite, and honestly I enjoy her character. She is funny and she was also a good friend. Samantha was promiscuous, plain and simple. And we live in a world where double standards exists, and we all use them at some point. The argument will be well she is just dong what men have been doing forever. While that may be true, there are some things that men can do and women can’t, that is just the reality. As women we all want to march the streets and say that men and women are equal, and we can do anything men can do. However as soon as a man hits a women, we are the first ones saying, “what kind of a man hits a women”? And I agree with that, but if we are equal shouldn’t be the same as a women hitting a women? The answer is no. Because men and women are not equals on all fronts, which brings me back to Samantha. She slept  with  a lot of men, sometimes more than one an episode. One time even giving oral sex to the UPS guy delivering a package and Carrie walking in on her. That does not make her cool, it makes her slutty.

She finally finds a guy who loves her, (Smith) and is the hottest man she has ever been with on the show( since sex is her number one priority). She eventually let him go, you know for the reasons we all do. He was totally in love with her and bought her jewelry she wanted to buy herself. Another one who knows how to pick them.

MIRANDA

Miranda was actually one of my favorite characters. Of course the one who could see through a lot of the bullshit that her friends were accepting from the men in their lives, was portrayed as cynical bitch. She was often seen as the moody one and a Debbie downer. When in actuality she was telling them the truth. Of course Miranda had her moments much like Samantha. She gets pregnant for an ex boyfriend she dumps because? You guessed it he was completely into her and she grew tired of him and decided it was not working out, sound familiar? When she is pregnant she decides to date, and even asks her friends at one point, “is it ok to have sex with a man if you are pregnant with another man’s baby?! The answer to that would be no. Of course her friends tell her they have to let him know first. Really? You can’t hold out until after your baby is born?

CHARLOTTE

Dear, dear Charlotte, The naïve one, at least that is what we are supposed to think. The one women out of the bunch who wanted a family came across the desperate one. The one who was being unrealistic about love and relationships, besides being the fact that she one who still wanted to work on her marriage even after finding out that her husband was having impotency issues. Judging from the rest of their track records they would have been out of there in a second because they have left previous ones for less. The irony of Charlotte is that the one who comes across as pathetic is the only one who truly ended up in a fulfilling relationship, no cheating, no wanting to get his own place, just a husband who loved her unconditionally.

Obviously I have a lot of time on my hands for looking so deep into Sex and the City. LOL! But I hope you get the point. Was and will always be a great show!

 

There has been a lot of hoopla concerning Miley Cyrus lately. Commenting on her VMA performance would be beating a dead horse at this point. This post is more about the evolution of Miley Cyrus. Am I the only one baffled how country Miley turned to Miley from the block? The answer I don’t want to hear is that she is growing up, why do people always say that? Yes when most girls get older and develop more womanly bodies, they want to show it off a bit more. Also she is twenty years old, puberty has been over for a long time. My point is I don’t get how she goes from the Climb to We Can’t Stop. It’s not even like she became  a more extreme version of herself, she became Rihanna ( and not a very convincing one).

This brings me to the jist of this post, Miley Cyrus’ blatant swagger jackin of Rihanna. The style, the weed smoking , the strippers, the instagram pics, it’s a little single white female to me. Even her new single sounds like a song that Rihanna probably rejected for her album. I would not consider myself a huge Rihanna fan or follower, I think she picks great songs, and love her or hate her she is the epitome of a pop star. I think there are many things that she (Rihanna) should keep private, that she instead chooses to expose to the world, yet I admire her ability to not be so guarded and let her personality show. See the thing is even if you don’t love Rihanna, there are things you are sure to like about her. Which mean people who love her really love her, and people who don’t, at least like her. I can understand why an artist like Miley Cyrus who is trying to re-invent themselves would want to follow RiRi’s lead, others have.

The thing with Miley is I actually think she is talented, she can sing and if what she claims is true, she is a pretty good songwriter too. I am not saying that she shouldn’t have given herself a little edge, but identity theft is illegal in all states. I don’t want to turn this into a race thing, but after seeing the VMA’s and not many Black artist winning and Macklamore taking home best rapper, and Miley now being credited for twerking (not that all of us Black people want to necessarily keep that one, right is right), it just feels a little uneasy. My final thought, Miley should find her own lane, like Rihanna did, that is why she has not been replaced yet.

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Who says hip hop can’t feed the soul? The funny thing is I thought this is where Kanye’s music would have progressed to.

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This is one of the most disgusting things to go down concerning a reality show, and that says a lot. Love & Hip Hop has had some questionable behaviors portrayed on the series but this has hit a new low. I will be the first to say that I enjoy reality tv, but this is the consequence of making people with not talent famous. Soon everyone will want a piece of the pie, but in the meantime will use twitter and instagram for a quick fix of the fame bug. No one should be surprised by her nonchalant, unapologetic demeanor, she did this on national television.

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I previously wrote a blog on Kanye West, wondering what happened to the deep rapper we all fell in love with years ago. I must say I am know wondering the same thing about Alicia Keys. I thought she had escaped the transformation (when an artist transforms from an deep, introspective musician to solely an entertainer) that so many artists go through. I remember when we had no idea what Alicia Keys skin looked like besides what was exposed on her face. I am not saying that there is anything wrong with being sexy or showing off the hard work you put into your body, however her change in style is very telling.

The same way Kanye went from wearing back-packs to all black exclusive designers, seems to be the same approach that Ms. Keys is taking. From the second I heard her new single “Girl on fire”, I knew we have probably lost the old “Falling” Alicia Keys. The new single lacks that emotion that she ALWAYS brings to her songs. Who is supposed to relate to a girl on fire? Yes she will say the same thing Beyonce says about all her songs that it is about female empowerment. That maybe true, but I am a female and I didn’t feel empowered, I felt confused as to what this song is about. I find it ironic that the more they (Beyonce, Alicia Keys, Katy Perry, Lady Gaga, etc) speak of girl power, and the equality of women the more clothes they remove. I can not take you seriously abut women taking control, and not letting men define what is sexy, when you are dancing in underwear. That last statement might apply more to her counterparts than to Alicia, but just wait. The funny thing is I saw Alicia as more powerful when she was fully dressed sitting behind a piano, but that’s just me.

I am sure many will argue, that it is about evolution, and that artists can not and should not stay in a box. I can see that point, but what I am having a hard time understanding is why does evolution and shallow music go hand in hand? Who do we have left for soul, Adele? And I mean that not as sarcasm, but rather posing it as a serious question. My ending point I guess would be, yes you can have a party record or a dance smash Alicia, but does that have to involve abandoning the core of your music, which used to give me goosebumps.

ON a side-note: More relative to this specific performance, were the festivities not held in Houston? Then why would you sing a New York anthem? Solely just because of my boyfriend I watched the super bowl. Now this is of course after the whole Beyonce lip-syncing controversy, so everyone would be singing live. Jennifer Hudson KILLED it, and I couldn’t wait for Alicia because I knew she was going to wow me with the national anthem. And well…..she didn’t. I never heard her sound like that before I felt she was off, and I noticed the same thing with this performance. Has Beyonce forced everyone to remove the veil, and now must sing live? Was she not singing live before because she sounds different to me?

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If you’ve never met the devil in the road of life, it’s because you’re both heading in the same direction….
Eben Gregory….

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When I first heard about The Houstons doing a reality show I vowed not to watch  because I felt that the very idea seemed disturbing. I mean Whitney had not been dead six months before they started filming so I can imagine how quickly they began negotiations. Before I get into my rant, let me first say that everyone grieves differently. I lost my mother a couple of months before Whitney Houston died, so I felt a great empathy for Bobbi Kristina because I was also extremely close to my mother.
With that being said I shall began. So my boredom came face to face with an “On our own” marathon on lifetime. First and foremost, the title is a bit confusing. Everyone on that show (excluding Krissi) should have been on their own a long time before Whitney passed away. Another thing I found interesting for a show that is supposed to show them moving on was that, they are all referred to as Whitney’s manager, bodyguard, brother, mother, etc. SHE IS NOT ON THE SHOW!. I must admit I am judging big time here, I think it was wrong for them (all of them ) to do a show so quickly and riding off of Whitney’s name. Another thing I find wrong? The exploitation of Bobbi Kristina.
Many people will say that Krissy is an adult and made the decision to be on the show, this is true. I however see a young woman who is devastated from the loss of her mother, and who is clearly using a little more than wine to numb the pain(allegedly). It was the wrong time for her to even be approached  about doing a television show during such fragile state. She should not have been put on TV under any circumstances. She is being used. The entire show isn’t based on them being on their own, it’s about how they have to save Krissi from going over the edge. If I am not mistaken Pat Houston (who seriously gives me the chills) has producer credentials on this show. I find it interesting the footage she allowed to air.
While we are still on the topic of Krissi, her relationship with her boyfriend/brother is….different. I’ll leave it at that.
Now that Pat Houston. Something is not right. I am not sure what or why but something is off with her. She comes off as someone who is very rehearsed and knows exactly how she wanted to come across on camera, as a martyr. She failed. For some reason I get a very manipulative vibe from her. On one hand she seems like she is trying to help Krissi, yet expose her at the same time, it’s all very intriguing. I think she needs to find a new role model, because Kris Jenner is not working out for her. If you really wanted to help your niece you would have never  put her on television in the first place, and would have ensured she received whatever type of help she might have needed.
I don’t really have much to say about her mother and brother, except it would have been nice if one of them put a stop to this before it even began. If you guys did not have the privilege of doing a reality show  because you are related to Whitney when she was alive you should not do it now. Whitney has said Being Bobby Brown was a mistake she made, I don’t think she would be a huge fan of this.

When I first heard about The Houstons doing a reality show I vowed not to watch  because I felt that the very idea seemed disturbing. I mean Whitney had not been dead six months before they started filming so I can imagine how quickly they began negotiations. Before I get into my rant, let me first say that everyone grieves differently. I lost my mother a couple of months before Whitney Houston died, so I felt a great empathy for Bobbi Kristina because I was also extremely close to my mother.

With that being said I shall began. So my boredom came face to face with an “On our own” marathon on lifetime. First and foremost, the title is a bit confusing. Everyone on that show (excluding Krissi) should have been on their own a long time before Whitney passed away. Another thing I found interesting for a show that is supposed to show them moving on was that, they are all referred to as Whitney’s manager, bodyguard, brother, mother, etc. SHE IS NOT ON THE SHOW!. I must admit I am judging big time here, I think it was wrong for them (all of them ) to do a show so quickly and riding off of Whitney’s name. Another thing I find wrong? The exploitation of Bobbi Kristina.

Many people will say that Krissy is an adult and made the decision to be on the show, this is true. I however see a young woman who is devastated from the loss of her mother, and who is clearly using a little more than wine to numb the pain(allegedly). It was the wrong time for her to even be approached  about doing a television show during such fragile state. She should not have been put on TV under any circumstances. She is being used. The entire show isn’t based on them being on their own, it’s about how they have to save Krissi from going over the edge. If I am not mistaken Pat Houston (who seriously gives me the chills) has producer credentials on this show. I find it interesting the footage she allowed to air.

While we are still on the topic of Krissi, her relationship with her boyfriend/brother is….different. I’ll leave it at that.

Now that Pat Houston. Something is not right. I am not sure what or why but something is off with her. She comes off as someone who is very rehearsed and knows exactly how she wanted to come across on camera, as a martyr. She failed. For some reason I get a very manipulative vibe from her. On one hand she seems like she is trying to help Krissi, yet expose her at the same time, it’s all very intriguing. I think she needs to find a new role model, because Kris Jenner is not working out for her. If you really wanted to help your niece you would have never  put her on television in the first place, and would have ensured she received whatever type of help she might have needed.

I don’t really have much to say about her mother and brother, except it would have been nice if one of them put a stop to this before it even began. If you guys did not have the privilege of doing a reality show  because you are related to Whitney when she was alive you should not do it now. Whitney has said Being Bobby Brown was a mistake she made, I don’t think she would be a huge fan of this.

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What happened to this Kanye? Don’t get me wrong Mr.West is still one of the best lyricist ever, but he has changed. I like to call this the transition period, every great (and not so great ones) go through. I was having a music conversation as I often do, about why such great rappers who have such deep content matter at the beginning of their careers begin to become a superficial shell of themselves. I guess one could assume they rap about their lives, and now that they have all the money in the world and are able to rid themselves of the every day to day worries, they also lose their social consciousness. Maybe this speaks to a bigger point that people that have less or at least are not millionaires have a certain type of connection with life and emotions that people of affluence will never get.

 I digress. Kanye West has always talked about money and designer clothing, but when he first appeared on the scene it was coming from a place of trying to understand why we need these things, or at least think we do. And he seemed to have a pretty good insight as to why. He went from, “the prettiest people do the ugliest things on the road to riches and diamond rings”, to “can’t a young nigga get money anymore, tell PETA my mink is dragging on the floor”. This makes me think of that old adage, “Money is the root of all evil”. Struggle builds character, it fosters compassion, and it forces resilience. Opulence seems to breed entitlement and disdain for any one who is beneath you on the totem pole of riches.

I remember not too long ago coming across some tweets that Mr. West posted on his disgust for certain people’s fashion choices while riding around in NYC. Some of Kanye’s distastes included but not limited to cargo pants and trench coats. I find this a little ironic since Kim Kardashian has made some very questionable fashion choices, since being styled by her lyricist boyfriend.

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Dope….Ciara really goes in when she performs. Rihanna could take a couple of notes..just sayin’

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Wow.Wow. First of all anyone that laughs like that you should know they are a pimp. When are people going to realize that most religion is big business. I am a believer in God, but I have never understood the point of poor people giving their money to churches who put in big screen televisions and podiums in place, and gators on their pastor’s feet. In my opinion if members of a church put money together it should go toward improving their neighborhoods, or to help out members who can’t pay their rent that month or afford to feed their families. But hey, what do I know. Don’t even get me started on Creflo the almighty Dollar.

What perplexes me is that this man is dancing…dancing on their money and instead of walking out, they put more money up there! And that’s not even the craziest part, I’m sure after he dances and blesses the money, he will be the one to keep it. I once read somewhere that the founder of Scientology, L. Ron Hubbard said, “if you want to be a millionaire, start a religion.”

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If you ask God to protect you from your enemies, you might start losing friends….
EbenGregory

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I have to say with all the reality television occupying my time, finding a intriguing new scripted show has proved to be rather refreshing. Nashville has pulled me in, and I love it!! Before even scratching the surface with the drama, the music is incredible. I have never been so into country music in my life, it’s a raw, and not to mention the actors are actually singing. Speaking of the actors, this is an impressive cast..every single one of them. The irony of my love for this scripted drama is that I feel like I’m watching reality tv. That may say something about reality tv.
Every week they manage to add a new layer to each and every one of the characteres. Not since Mad Men have I been so impressed with the writing and acting of a series.

I have to say with all the reality television occupying my time, finding a intriguing new scripted show has proved to be rather refreshing. Nashville has pulled me in, and I love it!! Before even scratching the surface with the drama, the music is incredible. I have never been so into country music in my life, it’s a raw, and not to mention the actors are actually singing. Speaking of the actors, this is an impressive cast..every single one of them. The irony of my love for this scripted drama is that I feel like I’m watching reality tv. That may say something about reality tv.

Every week they manage to add a new layer to each and every one of the characteres. Not since Mad Men have I been so impressed with the writing and acting of a series.

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